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Hey guys, Breakup Brad here. I’m the leading breakup and relationship expert here on YouTube, and I’m about to help you figure out whether your ex is “the one” for you… a perfect match, your soulmate…. Or whether they’re actually not right for you at all, and it might be time to give up and move on.
Look, this is something we’ve all wondered after a breakup… you’re heartbroken and missing your ex like crazy, and those feelings tend to push aside any negative memories of your time together and your ex’s personality generally.
Question #1: Are you SCARED of life without your ex around?
I can see you macho dudes out there watching this being like, “Brad, bro, I ain’t scared of SHIT!”.... And some of you are maybe thinking, “LOL what am I NOT scared of??”
Well, let’s not kid ourselves, because almost everyone is going to feel anxious about an uncertain future. You and your ex became accustomed to one another, you became comfortable with the idea of having them in your life as “your person”, and then suddenly that’s all been ripped up and thrown out the window. Your reality has changed, and your vision of the future suddenly doesn’t look as realistic as it did before the breakup. That is a SCARY thought, and it’s human nature to be frightened by an unknown future.
Question #2: Did you and your ex HAVE a future together? Can you picture that future, and is it realistic?
Alright, this one is a lot simpler, but it’s also another one that can be tough to answer honestly.
Does a long-term future together with this ex, if you’re 100% honest with yourself, actually seem feasible and realistic? Were you actually likely going to be able to live “happily ever after” and be together forever, or was something going to eventually make that unrealistic?
Question #3: Would things be different next time around if you had a second chance with your ex?
As you may know from my other videos and my Ex Factor program, I don’t ever think it’s wise to read much into what your ex tells you were the “reasons” for their decision to break up. But some couples are just, for whatever reason, unable to break out of a toxic cycle when they’re together in a relationship.
Question #4: Were you always having serious arguments and conflicts with this ex?
Hey, we all argue with our romantic partner from time to time, and sometimes they can even get heated and last days… Studies have actually even shown that an occasional argument between partners builds trust and a romantic connection. Crazy, right? BUT… there’s a limit to what’s normal and healthy. Beyond that threshold, when fights get very bitter and personal or happen constantly and never get resolved, that’s bad news and unlikely to be something you can fix easily if you get back together.
Question #5: Why do you really want to get back together with this person?
The last question I’m going to cover here in this video is a tough one to answer honestly. But maybe, if you think long and hard, your answer might be something shallow or silly. I had a coaching client a while ago who, when I actually asked him this very question, he told me bluntly that his ex “gave the best blowjobs ever”.....
Seriously, that’s great and I am all for both partners getting sexual satisfaction from a relationship…. But is that really enough of a reason to get back into an otherwise troubled relationship? Is your answer going to be, “because we were madly in love and connected on a deep emotional level”.... Or will it be “because he ironed my work clothes and made great French toast”?
Just answer honestly and decide for yourself whether your reasons for wanting to get back together are the right ones. And if you do decide that you still want your ex back, and that you really don’t want to let this person slip away forever, you know where to get more reliable help and proven tips…. By coming back and watching more of my YouTube videos, signing up for my Ex Factor program, or registering for my 1-on-1 ongoing coaching.
If you now realize it’s time to move on and let your ex go… then congratulations on at least deciding on a path forward, and good luck!
Either way, be sure to click the subscribe button right now to show your support, and comment below the video if you want to chat. Thanks for watching, ladies and gents… Breakup Brad signing off, bye for now!
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